I was a little girl when my dad nicknamed me “Bee”. It is a name that has stuck with me for over thirty years. When I decided to name this blog, I wanted the name to have a purpose, and The Felicity Bee was born.
Felicity, because I wanted this place to help you live a life full of bliss, joy, happiness, and utter contentment. (and the name stuck with me after the '90s craze of the Keri Russell TV Show!)
Bee, obviously because it is my nickname, but the more I study about the bumble bee, the more their purpose in nature defines our purpose here.
You can read more about the birth of our name here.
Why Thrive in Life?
So many of us live life on repeat . . . a perpetual “Groundhog Day”. Wake up - take care of kids, or house, or self, or spouse - work - meals - church - ministry - hobbies - sleep - repeat. Again and again. Many years ago I was stuck in this cycle wondering, “Is this it? What is my purpose? Is this all there is to life?”. I was a good mother, a good homemaker, a good teacher, a good worship leader . . . but I was miserable.
I was just surviving and my spirit was longing to thrive.
By definition SURVIVE means to endure, to live or exist through an affliction, adversity, or misery. Many of us have “survived” terrible hardships. Maybe you’ve survived a physical hardship. Maybe, you’ve survived a life-threatening situation. Whatever situation you survived, you can look back on those days and see that God has certainly brought us through, hasn’t He?
While we have survived many hardships and situations, do we really want to “live or exist in misery”? Do we really just want to “survive life”?
By definition THRIVE means to prosper, be fortunate, successful . . . to flourish.
3 John 1:2 says, “Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.” God desires us to live prosperous and blessed lives, not lives of merely existing or just getting by. His desire is for us to thrive and flourish, prosper and be successful. To thrive should be our life’s goal.
Why should we desire to rule and reign in life? Because in reigning we go from surviving to thriving.
How to Thrive in Life?
We can learn so many lessons from the bumblebee that can give us a look into HOW to thrive in life.
1. CREATE A ROYAL BUZZ.
Bees’ buzzing serves a very distinct purpose. “When certain species of “buzz-pollinating" bees, such as bumblebees, visit a flower, the buzzing and vibrations of their wings and bodies cause pollen to shake off the flower. The pollen then attaches to the bee's body and is deposited on the next flower the bee stops to visit.” (source)
To thrive in our lives we need to be creating a “royal buzz”. Ask yourself, what kind of sound does your life create?
Your words frame your atmosphere. Are your words creating a life of peace or chaos? Joy or anger? Healing or hurting? Do you constantly bring drama and verbal attacks? Do you constantly nag? Are your words filled with bitterness, anger, and hate?
Or, like the bee, does your “buzz” pollinate the lives of those around you causing them to bloom. Do your words cause things to grow? Does your speech bring beauty and life?
Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.” To thrive in this life, you must be the Queen who uses her buzz to build up and not tear down.
In fact, when a hive switches Queen’s, the Queen will determine the atmosphere of the hive; often bringing change when needed. Some Queen’s encourage aggressiveness and others hard work and success.
What kind of Queen do you choose to be?
2. WORK HARD.
I have a pretty pink flowering bush out by my patio. Every spring, a swarm of bumble bee’s come to collect pollen from the pink flowers. Every morning, I have breakfast on my patio, and without fail, my bee friends are awake with the dawn, and they are working. Asher has named them. “Buddy Bee” is his favorite.
Our sweet bumblebee friends buzz about working hard all day. A bee must visit two million flowers to give us one pound of honey. The average worker bee will only produce 1/12 of a teaspoon of honey in her lifetime. That seems like a lot of hard work for a very little result, doesn’t it?
“The worker bees, which are all females, are the hardest working. They are tasked with the foraging of nectar and pollen, spending most of daylight outside the hive. Entomologists have reported that these bees make more than 100 foraging trips in a day. When the sun goes down, they head back to the nest. Other worker bees are kept busy around the clock with jobs within the hive including feeding the queen and larvae, building and repairing the hive, fanning her wings to keep the nest cool, and protecting the hive against enemies.” (source)
When I studied the worker bee, I couldn’t help but notice that she sounds a lot like The Proverbs 31 woman.
"She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms. She perceives that her merchandise is good, And her lamp does not go out by night. She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants." Proverbs 31:15-18
If you want to thrive in this life, you must work hard unto the Lord. The bumble bee doesn’t know that we enjoy the honey they work so hard for. They aren’t working for us. The bee’s are working unto the Lord because that is what they were created to do.
You may be a stay-at-home Momma. You may be a teacher, a blogger, a nurse, or the CEO of a Fortune 500 company. Whatever your work may be, do it with all your might unto the Lord. You may never reap the applause of man, but like the bee, you aren’t working for man . . . you are working unto the Lord.
"For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ.” Galatians 1:10
3. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS.
Now that may seem harsh, but follow with me. Remember when you were a kid and someone shouted at you on the playground, “Mind your own beeswax!”. The term, mostly used by seven-year-olds, means “mind your own business”.
As I watch my bee friends work each morning, I can’t help but watch how they mostly work alone. They go from flower to flower “minding their own beeswax”. “Buddy Bee” isn’t looking at “Bella Bee” to see what her flower looks like. She isn’t comparing how much pollen Bella has gathered compared to the amount she has gathered. Buddy isn’t jealous of how Bella looks, flies, or buzzes. Buddy puts her little bee head down and gets working.
My friends, if you want to thrive in life, you must mind your own beeswax. Stop comparing your life to the little squares on Instagram. Stop comparing your entire life to someone’s highlight reel on Facebook.
Your business is not their business. Your family is not hers. Your hair, height, weight, clothes are uniquely yours. Own it! And let us stop the sickening, fruitless, and destructive comparison game. Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the the thief of joy”. Such truth. The fastest way to ruin a day is by comparing yourself to someone else.
"Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” Galatians 6:4-5 NLT
I have such a passion to help others THRIVE in life. I am learning that life is just too short to waste on merely surviving. I want to help others THRIVE! In Part 2 of this series, we will learn even more lessons from the bee on how to thrive in this life.
I am in the process of creating a membership group for women like you who desire to THRIVE in life, grow closer to Jesus in the Word and Worship, and form a community of like-minded women who also want to learn to live life to the fullest. THE QUEEN'S CIRCLE is for you!